I have been out of grad school for one month and i swear im the busiest unemployed person i know! So what have I been doing for 1 month? Let me see:
1) Moving to a new house and getting used to living in a new neighborhood
2) not really but saying I'm looking for jobs (I have said "I will start that tomorrow" more than i count)
3) dreaming about traveling to europe for the month of september and then realizing that it might not be the best idea since I technically dont know if i even have the money to do it
4) going to street fairs
5) berry picking and making not so delicious pies out of them
6) antique shopping for my new room (yes you read that right)
7) putting together an ikea dresser, which we all know translates into a full days worth of work!
8) Working one day a week at a restaurant called Fat City (i know....6 hrs of work in one week, I am hardcore)
9) going to movies
10) spending time with the h-crew every wednesday
11) going to a random party where i knew no one, but was directed via a flyer where to go
12) joined a CSA, so trying to figure out how to cook/eat an assortment of vegetables I'm not used to
13) biking to new places
14) going out for brunch
I'm sure the list could go on if i wanted to put weird/small things i've done but alas the point is, I dont have a job and i dont really want one. weird right? I just spent all this time and money so i could get a job, but i dont want one OR maybe the correct way of saying this is i'm scared to get one.
ive spent the past 2 days looking up jobs and as I'm reading the description i feel completely in over my head. can i do this is a question i keep asking and my internal response is "no". So now what? Fake it til i make it? i think so, which does not build up the ole confidence which would be nice to have as I am trying to sell myself to hiring managers.
what happened to my confidence? I used to have it. My mom always told me that when i was younger (under 5 yrs) I would walk around saying that I was confident. So apparently my 5 year old version of me is confident, but the 28 year old isnt. im not in kansas anymore toto- im in the big leagues and that freakin scares me. i will responsible for people's lives, illnesses, dreams, goals, and that my friends alarms me.
i feel like school made me realize that i have no fricken idea as to what im doing. humbling and in some respect is making me push away from getting a job. i like going into a job where i know what im doing, but that is not going to be the case. in school my teacher would say that mentality should always be how we operate- by not being the expert, we allow the people we work with to really be a part of the change process. but wow, how easy and comforting it is to be expert! i never realized how much power/reassurance the expert role gave me and now im trying to embrace/be reassured at not being the expert.....so hard to do.
so my busyness....needs to morph. i need to stop avoiding life, avoiding my fear, and address it. it may take me a long time to get a job, but i still need to try and i need to tap into my 5 year old self and find that confidence again.
1) Moving to a new house and getting used to living in a new neighborhood
2) not really but saying I'm looking for jobs (I have said "I will start that tomorrow" more than i count)
3) dreaming about traveling to europe for the month of september and then realizing that it might not be the best idea since I technically dont know if i even have the money to do it
4) going to street fairs
5) berry picking and making not so delicious pies out of them
6) antique shopping for my new room (yes you read that right)
7) putting together an ikea dresser, which we all know translates into a full days worth of work!
8) Working one day a week at a restaurant called Fat City (i know....6 hrs of work in one week, I am hardcore)
9) going to movies
10) spending time with the h-crew every wednesday
11) going to a random party where i knew no one, but was directed via a flyer where to go
12) joined a CSA, so trying to figure out how to cook/eat an assortment of vegetables I'm not used to
13) biking to new places
14) going out for brunch
I'm sure the list could go on if i wanted to put weird/small things i've done but alas the point is, I dont have a job and i dont really want one. weird right? I just spent all this time and money so i could get a job, but i dont want one OR maybe the correct way of saying this is i'm scared to get one.
ive spent the past 2 days looking up jobs and as I'm reading the description i feel completely in over my head. can i do this is a question i keep asking and my internal response is "no". So now what? Fake it til i make it? i think so, which does not build up the ole confidence which would be nice to have as I am trying to sell myself to hiring managers.
what happened to my confidence? I used to have it. My mom always told me that when i was younger (under 5 yrs) I would walk around saying that I was confident. So apparently my 5 year old version of me is confident, but the 28 year old isnt. im not in kansas anymore toto- im in the big leagues and that freakin scares me. i will responsible for people's lives, illnesses, dreams, goals, and that my friends alarms me.
i feel like school made me realize that i have no fricken idea as to what im doing. humbling and in some respect is making me push away from getting a job. i like going into a job where i know what im doing, but that is not going to be the case. in school my teacher would say that mentality should always be how we operate- by not being the expert, we allow the people we work with to really be a part of the change process. but wow, how easy and comforting it is to be expert! i never realized how much power/reassurance the expert role gave me and now im trying to embrace/be reassured at not being the expert.....so hard to do.
so my busyness....needs to morph. i need to stop avoiding life, avoiding my fear, and address it. it may take me a long time to get a job, but i still need to try and i need to tap into my 5 year old self and find that confidence again.